Learning to listen 
Listening is a skill taking practice, trying to listen without thought… can be difficult, most people are just waiting to respond, only hearing a piece of what the other is saying.
 The other person hasn’t even finished a sentence and we’re thinking of our response, most times butting in way before they are even finished speaking, we just can’t contain ourselves, blurting out our opinion.. especially if its some good gossip.
You might be very surprised when truly listening, in fact… you may think you never even knew that person before!  Its especially hard listening to family members, this is because we tend to think we already know what they are going to say.
They say the number one cause of divorce is lack of communication, witch really means! lack of listening . Many married couples that have been together for years end in divorce, because they haven’t listen to each other in years and really don’t even know each other anymore, we’re not the same people we were years ago.  However if you ask a couple while their still getting along in their relationship, they will say things like …we can read each others minds or I know them better then they know their selves. When really we’re  just in the habit of not listening… to the point we don’t know who we are! so we just hope the other half does . To listen without the intention of responding is to truly listen.  Pay close attention to yourself, Are you listening or are you thinking and judging and waiting to respond. While the other is talking, are you thinking  stuff like … I know what you’re going to say, and the answer is no!, your lying to me, I heard this before!, I hate that shirt he’s wearing. you don’t know what the hell your talking about, how long are you going to go on about it .
Our teenage children can be very difficult to listen to because they are changing who they are every day. So its very important to listen without thought and without judgment …If your teenage child says.. I want to go to my friends house on Saturday night…Before they have even said friends house….you already are thinking…..she is asking me..” can I drop out of school  do drugs and have a child out of wedlock “.
Regardless if you say it out loud its in the conversation, thinking is an energy…and any negativity in our thoughts are going to be in your conversations weather or not you say them out loud.    When we meet a new person we tend to start thinking and judging from the moment we lay eyes on them.  We are sizing them up comparing them to ourselves, labeling, judging. She’s good looking,,, I hate her, what is she thinking wearing that! she seem so phony. the hole time shaking her hand and mechanically introducing yourself. You haven’t a clue what her name is, you have been busy thinking. We also tend to do the same to ourselves when meeting people we start judging ourselves …I cant compete with these people, they seem much more better then me. I feel out of place here, I should have worn the other out fit. He is more successful then me, their house is nicer, newer.   We all do this and so its seems to be normal but it doesn’t have to be. it only causes  suffering and we miss out on opportunities, friendships, marriage, successful children.
Being present without thought can be very difficult at first, but with practice it becomes easier and even addicting …presences is being at peace. and peace is being happy.  We all long for peace. which is probably why a lot of people have addictions…drugs, alcohol can feel like “presence” we tend to feel quite at ease when we have a few drinks in us. alcohol simulates “presence” if you have ever been intoxicated you may remember feeling at peace telling someone you just met how much you love them, talking to strangers like your best friends making plans to do things the next day. and later thinking what was I thinking!! followed by I guess I wasn’t .  Drugs and alcohol are illusions of ” presence” that’s what makes them so addicting. people can also become addicted to things that make you become alert, present, aware, like riding a motorcycle. while riding you are more present because its somewhat an adrenaline rush and our primal instincts tell us to be alert,  mountain climbing, jumping out of planes.
Working out at the gym can simulate the fight or flight feeling which makes you feel alert and closer to feeling present.  Being truly present means having an awareness of the moment.  Controlling your thinking  you are then able to drink or climb a mountain because you enjoy it…not because you are addicted and want to escape your thinking.
Even watching TV can keep us from our own minds, its very addicting to lose yourself in a movie .
Your body does not know the difference of a movie or real life it reacts the same a sad movie will make you cry, a happy make you laugh and feel good , a drama will make you feel angry. So pay  attention to your thoughts and your bodies response. So along with listening to those around you listen to your thinking, awareness is all that’s needed.

Be Successful

How being… ” success” works

First the thought is born, the idea.
Then you need to have an intention of that idea. And this is the most important ask yourself what do I want from this thought this idea …there is nothing wrong with wanting to make money, but if your intentions are to only make money you will never be happy and I will tell you why.
 Ask yourself  why do I want money ? do I need something right now in this moment. … you may say yes! I need to pay the rent… I need to feed my kids… I need to keep the utilities on …
However you can’t eat! money.
You may have money and not pay the rent. Many people spend their money on gambling, smoking, drinking. what do you  really want ? Happiness?

  Success is something that happens, it has no limits , no size, it has no preference good or evil anyone can obtain it.  It can cause happiness, fame, depression, sadness ect..

A child can be successful at crawling or a millionaire at making another million .
Our thinking is energy and the universe is very obedient to conform that energy into what we call our reality. So pay close attention to your thoughts.
  Re-think your intention and ask your self again, what is my intention of doing this? Of wanting this thought? Because believe it or not You! are in control of your thoughts, You! choose them no one else. And if you have the right thoughts, the right thinking. the right intentions …MAGIC does seem to happen.
Bill Gates,  Mother Teresa, Oprah Winfrey, , along with many others have something in common:   Is it just good luck? Does it make sense that a little black girl growing up in times of such prejudice, not only for  African-Americans, but also for women in general. And yet she becomes one of the riches women in  the country  . Bill gates A College dropout builds a multimillion dollar company.  Mother Teresa is known and loved around the world and even receives the 1979  Nobel Peace Prize. Do you  think  that it is luck? Or is what they have in common, something else? Perhaps its the way they  don’t think. The odds were against all of these people …but their thoughts their attitude toward life were the same.
 Take a moment and  imagine any one of these people throwing a fit in traffic, yelling about how  life is treating them  unfairly, or dwelling on their horrible childhood, do you  think they would have got where they have in life? Can you imagine anyone of these people having  a negative personality? do you believe that anyone of their intentions were just to make  money, or to  become famous?
 They  simply had a passion!  their intentions were to give, to make a difference to create.
   You don’t have to imagine it
 I’ve heard Oprah say she  never thought her talk show would be so successful, she didn’t have to even  imagine it and yet it still happen. She had a passion and it was to help people.  I would imagine the money and fame were just a bonus, the real  reward is fulfilling the intentions of giving… making a difference.. emanating their passion with  gratitude, acceptance, and presences. The universe did the rest.
That magic universe that excludes no one .
You may say… yes ” But I don’t have any time for that”
We may think that important people must have golden minutes in the day that somehow they spend their day differently .. somehow their moments! in the day are magic moment and each moment is spent doing magical things, things that are only meant for special people with special thinking powers.
No! the president or even the Pope have the same minutes in the day as you.  the same space to work  the same 24 hours.  The only thing that makes us different is how we choose to believe. you may say well he has power, money , ect….
   When you take away the idea that power, money, material things, have true meaning! We are left with people all standing there in the same space.
What is left of this person without power? money? or material things? what are you! without power? money? or material things.?
If we have an earthquake you may have a smaller or larger pile of rubble then the next guy,  Your house may be gone but the space still remains.
Never think your intentions are to big or to small

We are born in different forms. different DNA, but still in the same world.

If you are born without a voice doesn’t mean you can’t make a beautiful sound, it doesn’t mean you can’t be heard,,, Just because you were  born without arms doesn’t mean you can’t create beautiful art .. being born without eyes doesn’t mean you have no vision.
    Remember a time you felt successful at something. No matter how small.  The journey through the process of success is the same . The universe doesn’t recognize big or small success.
First what is something you think is a success.. a BIG! success? maybe curing a disease, writing a famous song , creating a piece of art , writing a best seller.
What does it mean to you
You might be surprised to know, that your idea of success could be very different from the next person , for example a person that just wrote a great novel , may believe success is having a relationship having a family. And with that thinking… may feel like a failure. The only thing different about people who is really no different ! Because we all do it…is having different thoughts. We have different ideas. and those different thoughts, different ideas ..may have different meaning to us.
My mom always said watch your pennies and your dollar will take care of themselves.
 I say watch your intentions and life will take care of it self .
What are your intentions ?